posted by Jennifer Hlad on May 11
Lt. Col. Brown (the commanding officer of CLB-24) sent this to me to share with y’all. Happy Mother’s Day!
I have been married to a wonderful woman for over twenty years. I was married before I entered the military and my wife and mother of my three children has lived the entire military spouse experience; base housing, moving from coast to coast and overseas, extended deployments, and trying to stretch a paycheck from one payday to the next. It didn’t go far when I was a Lance Corporal and a young Marine’s pay still doesn’t go very far today.
The global war on terrorism has made the job of a military spouse and mother even more trying. We are deployed much more often, for longer periods of time, and there are many, many more variables. Most deployments are to places where there are people whose sole ambition in life is to kill Americans. Against this backdrop, most marriages don’t last. Those that do are held together through the sheer will and determination of both participants. When kids are involved, our spouses bear the brunt of the work that goes with raising a family. Being a military spouse and mother is the only job where you knowingly sign up to live the life of a single parent. While the military sends us to the far reaches of the globe, they are left to explain to our children why we aren’t home, and how we can love them while at the same time love a life and job that sends us away from them. They have to put on a smile on the home front. They are left to do the work of two people, yet they still find time to manage the bills, shuffle kids to their different social/sporting events, and put a care package together.
If something tragic or just plain bad is going to happen, it will happen while we are deployed. They are the ones left to deal with clogged drain pipes, appliances that spontaneously catch fire, the death of pets, natural disasters, sickness, and later on… teens. They bear it all unflinchingly. Depending on where we are sent, we may or may not know what is going on in the world around us. We may not have access to current newspapers or see a television. They are bombarded by news media that does very little to assuage their anguish. We see very little. They see it all, and worry. If they are lucky, they have friends with whom they can talk, who understand and can help out. On the other end of the spectrum, they can find themselves on the front-end of a tour in a foreign country, as the “new person” and their spouse deployed for seven months to a year. They get no medals, no recognition, and no homecoming. The best most will get is an appreciative returning spouse. Compared to their job, we have it very, very easy.
I do not write this letter to place military spouses above others. Being a parent is hard, period. I would however, like to let those wives of service members, and especially those who have children, know just how much we appreciate them on this Mother’s Day.
